Asking someone to be with you for the rest of your natural life is a pretty big deal. Proposals are a major milestone in any love story, and you’ll definitely want to make this moment as special as possible. If you’re reading this, you’re probably ready to take that big step in your relationship and finally pop the question.
Well, congratulations! While we know that they haven’t said ‘yes’ yet, we’re sure they will because apart from being in love with you as much as you are with them, you’re going to plan a proposal as beautiful as your love story, here’s how.
- Make sure you both want to get married.
While it may seem counterintuitive to bring up marriage when you’re, you know, planning a surprise proposal, it’s important to make sure that you’re both on the same page. Most likely, if you’ve gotten to a point where you are ready to propose, then this is something that you have spoken with your partner about during the course of your relationship to date.
Although it might seem difficult to have this conversation without making it feel like a proposal, it is very doable. Hopefully, someone you both know has gotten married or engaged recently, and you can use a conversation about their wedding or engagement to gently ease into a conversation about the hopes you have for your relationship.
Hopefully, this talk will give you a clear idea of whether your partner has marriage on their mind as well. Sometimes can also bring up conversations like these in a group setting with friends or family members that you are comfortable speaking about these things with. That way, it seems more general, everyone is involved in the conversation, and it seems like you’re all sharing your thoughts in a casual conversation rather than fishing for ideas. And speaking of family.
2. You might want to ask for their family’s blessing.
Of course, this varies from person to person and family to family, and while it may be a little old school asking for their family’s blessing could be very important to either them or their family. If your partner has previously dropped a few hints about asking for their parent’s blessing before proposing, then do it. Keep in mind that your partner is an individual of their own free will, and with some close-knit families, asking for their parent’s blessing, no matter how old school it may seem, may hold great sentimental value.
3. Look back on your relationship for inspiration.
Your proposal is a chance to bring together some of the most unique and enjoyable things about your relationship. Here, sentimentality matters a lot; sure, you could plan an amazing dinner at an exclusive restaurant (which is by all means still a great idea), but would it beat heading back to the first place you went to on your first date, your favorite spot in the park, or maybe their childhood neighborhood that they feel very attached to? These are the questions you need to ask yourself. Think deeply about your relationship and what matters to you both. This is the time to show that you really pay attention to your partner.
4. Don’t get a ring. Get them their ring.
Your partner (and soon-to-be spouse) will likely wear their engagement ring every day for the rest of their life, or at least at really important moments and events. This is why it’s important to get them a ring that they’ll enjoy wearing, so make sure that it matches their personal style as much as it holds sentimental and symbolic value.
You can look at the jewelry they wear every day for inspiration, for example, and even if they’re not a big jewelry fan, this may be a hint to get a subtle minimalist ring that isn’t too flashy. If you’re lucky, they may even have a Pinterest board that you can peak at, or you could enlist the help of some very discrete and trustworthy friends to help you out.
As for where to get your ring, ask married couples you know for jeweler recommendations, and take a good look at their reviews. And make sure to have as many consultations as you can before settling on one.
5. Consider getting the help of a professional.
While you’re the expert in your love story, enlisting the help of a professional like Mr. Wedding Proposal goes a long way in taking the perfect proposal from dream to reality. While proposals are famous for being surprises and spontaneous, that doesn’t mean that you can’t carefully plan to have the perfect pictures that will help you cherish that moment forever. We can help you take care of all the minute details like logistics to sourcing vendors so you can have a stress-free proposal experience and focus on what really matters: love.
6. Don’t forget to have fun.
And keep falling in love. They say marriage is a long conversation that feels short. There is something new to learn about each other each day. As time moves on, you’ll grow with each other. Cherish every experience and moment you have spent together and in love because that’s what’ll make life worth living.
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